Unpacking That Knot in Your Stomach: A Journey to Self-Understanding

Hey, hey, hey, gorgeous! 💕

Ever had that feeling—a knot in your stomach that just won’t budge? That nagging little tangle of nerves, doubt, or worry that sneaks up when you least expect it? Well, I had one of those, and instead of pushing it down or ignoring it, I decided to sit with it, explore it, and—of course—bring you along for the ride.

Those knots aren’t just random. They’re messages. And if we take a moment to listen, they can tell us so much about what’s really going on inside.

The Knot That Wouldn’t Quit

So, there I was, cruising through my usual busy life—work, coaching programs, planning events at our gorgeous property Ananda—when BAM! That tight, twisty feeling hit me right in the gut. Now, I get these from time to time (don’t we all?), and usually, I can pinpoint the cause. But this one? This one felt different.

At first, I brushed it off. But when it lingered, I knew it was time to dive deeper. And here’s the process I followed—one that you might find helpful the next time a stubborn knot shows up for you.

Step 1: Identify the Feeling

I asked myself, What am I actually feeling? And here’s what spilled out:

• I feel worried.
• I feel like I’ve done something wrong.
• I feel like I’ve upset someone.
• I feel like I’m…inconveniencing others.

Oof. That last one hit hard. It was like a spotlight on an old belief lurking beneath the surface.

Step 2: Where Is It Coming From?

Now, I love a good deep dive into my own thought patterns (occupational hazard of being a coach 😉). So, I started tracing this belief back. When did I first feel like I was a burden? When did I start assuming that speaking up or taking space meant I was causing inconvenience?

And BOOM—childhood memories came rushing back. Moments where I got in trouble, moments where I felt like I was ‘too much,’ moments where I absorbed the unspoken rule that keeping the peace meant keeping quiet.

And just like that, I saw it clearly: this wasn’t just about today’s situation. This was old programming, running on autopilot.

Step 3: Is It Even True?

This is a biggie. I asked myself, Is there any actual evidence that I’ve done something wrong?

Spoiler alert: No. None. Nada.

I was assuming. Jumping to conclusions. Telling myself a story based on the past, not the present. And that realisation? Oh, it was POWERFUL.

Step 4: What Do I Want to Believe Instead?

This is where the magic happens, where we rewrite the script. Here’s what I chose to believe instead:

✨ My needs are just as important as anyone else’s.
✨ Speaking up doesn’t mean I’m inconveniencing others.
✨ People can have questions without it meaning I’ve done something wrong.
✨ I am safe to take up space, share my truth, and stand confidently in who I am.

The Takeaway?

Gorgeous, we all have these sneaky little beliefs that pop up when we least expect them. But when we take the time to unpack them—to question them, rewrite them, and choose a new truth—we set ourselves free.

So, the next time you feel that knot in your stomach, don’t ignore it. Listen to it. Let it guide you. And most importantly, know that you are NEVER an inconvenience. You are a gift.

Sending you all the fabulousness and big, big hugs. 💖