Celebrating 30 Years of Marriage: Lessons Learned from Three Decades Together

In the latest episode of Happy Go Fabulous, we celebrated a monumental milestone—30 years of marriage! Joined by my husband, John, we took a heartfelt stroll down memory lane, reflecting on the beautiful highs, the challenging lows, and the lessons that have shaped our partnership. Our story isn’t just about us; it’s about the universal journey of love, resilience, and growth. Here are some key takeaways from our three decades together.

1. The Power of Saying Yes

Sometimes life-changing moments come from the most unexpected places. I didn’t want to go horse riding that day, but saying “yes” led me to John. It’s a reminder that stepping out of your comfort zone can bring incredible opportunities—not just in love, but in life.

Lesson: Stay open to new experiences, even when they’re out of your comfort zone. You never know where they might lead you!

2. Commitment Through Challenges

Our journey hasn’t always been easy. We faced financial struggles, career changes, and even moments of questioning our marriage. But in those difficult times, we chose to lean in rather than walk away. Choosing each other, even when things were tough, became the foundation of our resilience.

Lesson: Every relationship faces challenges. It’s not about avoiding them but navigating through them together. When the going gets tough, remember why you started the journey in the first place.

3. Growing Individually and Together

One of the reasons we’ve lasted 30 years is because we respect each other’s individuality. John goes on fishing trips, and I pursue my passions. We support each other’s dreams without losing our own identities. Yet, we always come back to the partnership that grounds us.

Lesson: It’s crucial to maintain your identity within a relationship. When both partners are fulfilled individually, they bring more joy and growth to the relationship.

4. Navigating Conflict with Compassion

We’re not a fiery couple. We don’t yell or argue in the heat of the moment. Instead, we reflect, process, and communicate once emotions have settled. This approach has saved us from unnecessary conflict and allowed us to truly understand each other’s perspectives.

Lesson: Find a conflict-resolution style that works for you as a couple. It’s not about who’s right or wrong but about working together to find a solution.

5. Having Fun and Staying Lighthearted

Laughter truly is the best medicine. We’ve kept our sense of humor intact through all of life’s challenges. We poke fun at each other, share inside jokes, and never take ourselves too seriously. This playfulness keeps the joy alive and reminds us to enjoy the ride.

Lesson: Don’t forget to laugh together. Life is serious enough—your relationship doesn’t always have to be.

6. The Importance of Family and Community

Through all the highs and lows, our family has been our anchor. We cherish the memories we’ve created with our children and our extended family. These connections have given our life purpose and fulfillment beyond ourselves.

Lesson: Surround yourself with people who lift you up and create a community of love and support. Life’s journey is richer when shared with those who matter most.

Ready to Find or Strengthen Your Love Story?

If our journey resonates with you, or if you’re looking to find a partner, enhance your current relationship, or heal from heartbreak, I’m here to help. Book a 1:1 session with me and let’s work together to create the love story you deserve.

Here’s to 30 years of love, laughter, and growth. And here’s to the next 30—filled with even more adventures, memories, and lessons.

Tune in to this heartfelt episode on Happy Go Fabulous—because real love is raw, real, and beautifully imperfect.

Big love,